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What is the Best Advice that You Have Ever Received?


Hi, it’s been a minute, and I apologize for that, but I’ve made a commitment to post more frequently, and now it’s officially in writing.  My last blog, The Best Advice is Usually One that Comes from You, caused me to think more about the best advice that I have ever received.  I have received some gems and some duds!  Some was sound and some was, “Are you really telling me this?”  But here is my  first list of the best advice that I have ever received (not in any particular order of importance):

  1. Do to others as you  what you would have them do to you aka The Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12, NIV). – Jesus Christ
  2. What matters most is how you see yourself.
  3. Pay your bills first, pay yourself second!  Keep good credit, because your reputation and it go hand in hand.- My Mother
  4. You  control your thoughts, not the other way around.
  5. Sometimes you have to stop thinking so much and go where your heart takes you.
  6. Love is not supposed to hurt.
  7. When choosing a mate,  make sure they respect you, have a job, and is as smart, if not smarter than you are!. – My Mother
  8. Always keep enough money to get home if you are stranded. – My Mother
  9. What you find in your mind is what you put there. Put good things in there.
  10. Trust yourself, think for yourself, act for yourself, speak for yourself. Imitation is suicide. – Marva Collins
  11. Dare to be yourself. – Andre Gide
  12. …You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should… – From the Desiderata
  13. You may  delay, but time will not. – Benjamin Franklin.
  14. Shit happens!
  15. Change your thoughts and your change the world. – Norman Vincent Peale
  16. Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it. -Oprah Winfrey
  17. To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. – Thich Nhat Hanh
  18. Because you are alive, everything is possible.- Thich Nhat Hanh
  19. A man who stands for nothing, will fall for anything.- Malcolm X
  20. Whatever you do, do it with passion. If you don’t have passion in your life then you are not really living. – Me

Stay tuned, more to come!  In the meantime,  think about the best advice that you have ever received and post it!


The Best Advice is Usually the One that Comes from You


Why is so easy to give advice to others but so hard to apply it to ourselves? We have no trouble telling a friend  or loved one that they should end a bad relationship, yet we have trouble ending our own.  How often have we advised others to follow their dreams but put our own on hold or worse never acted upon them.  W. R. Alger, once said, “We give advice by the bucket, but take it by the grain.”

What is it about human nature that makes us want us to sacrifice ourselves for other but not ourselves?  While that is a noble deed and the premise of many fairy tales, that is not always beneficial in the real world. But I digress.  Back to advice.  To give advice is to give guidance , and haven’t we  all given that at some point to someone in our lives or a stranger that has crossed our path.  How many times have you given advice on the best direction to take based on your personal experiences?  And I’m not talking about just driving directions either.  Everyone who has ever experienced ANYTHING becomes an expert in SOMETHING.   We all have taught Life 101 at some point, and whether we know it or not, we are all experts on one particular subject area, ourselves. Remember, the advice we so generously give others is applicable to ourselves. William Shakespeare, once said, “Those who school others, oft should school themselves.”

Go ahead and unleash your inner life coach. Listen and learn.  The advice you receive may take you places you never imagined; show you things you never dreamed possible, or open doors you that you once thought were closed .