Monthly Archives: August 2013

Reflections on the 50th Anniversary March on Washington


August 28, 2013 marks the 50th anniversary of the historic March on Washington and Dr. Martin Luther King’s speech, I Have a Dream.  While looking at news coverage of the event yesterday, I learned that his iconic speech was not originally on  the agenda, he planned to speak about something else.  Maybe it was divine intervention, but  I am so glad he said those words.  Fifty years later, some aspects of it have been fulfilled,  but it has yet to be fully realized.  There is still work to do.  It is not too late to fulfill Dr. King’s dream. On August 28,  let’s think of one thing that we all can do, individually or collectively to fulfill the dream.


Sometimes You Just Have to Let Things Go


A few days ago, I forked over $700 for some sensors for Scarlett O’Hara, my 1998 Ford Mustang Convertible.  I’ve had her for about three years and we have made it through some tough times together.  So, I feel a sense of loyalty to her.  She’s a beauty. People always stop to stare at her.  She has style and panache, but I have had to make repairs ever since I got her.  What’s beautiful on the  outside may not always be beautiful on the inside.  The service clerk at the repair shop told me, “Look at this way, by the time you’re finished, you will have a new car. ” By the time I’m finished! Sure, he can say that, because he’s sucking up all my money!  Last week, when I saw my “Check Engine” light, I knew it was time to let Scarlett go. She no longer brought me enjoyment,  instead I now viewed her as  a burden.  The last repair just solidified that.  It was the best thing for the both of us.  Feelings change and if you don’t feel good about something, that’s a sign that something isn’t right.  Go with your gut and trust your instincts.  No one knows what is better for you than you do.  Listen to the advice of others, but always let the final decision be yours, because you will have to live with it.  Even though I let her go on Thursday, I know there is someone out there for her.  Guys love her, so I know she won’t be sitting on the lot too long.  Doesn’t Scarlett O’Hara always get her man?

Scarlett O'Hara, gone but not forgotten.

Scarlett O’Hara, gone but not forgotten.

How Will the World Know that You Were Here?


Beyoncé has a song entitled, I Was Here. It’s beautiful, haunting, and inspiring all at the same time.  In it, she tells us what she wants the world to know about her.  Have you thought about the mark you will leave on the world? What do you want your legacy to be?  You don’t have to be famous to have a legacy, but it is important to have one, because you were not created by chance.  You have a purpose.  We all do. For most of us, the hard part is figuring out what it is. How will the world know that you were ever here?   What do you want your legacy to be?

Don’t Wait to Use the Good Dishes


I have a set of beautiful teacups and saucers that were given to me by mother and they have sat in the cupboard for years  collecting dust because I was saving them for a special occasion that still hasn’t come yet. Recently, I saw them and thought, You may die without ever using these and they are just too beautiful to waste.  Use them now. Why are you waiting for a special occasion? You are the special occasion! Then I was like, yeah, you’re right!  So, I took a teabag and made myself a  proper cup of ginger peach green  tea.

What are you saving for a special occasion?  Don’t delay any longer, use it.  Believe that you are worthy of the finer things in life. Believe that you are worthy, period.  Make yourself feel sexy by wearing that lingerie or  pretty red dress.  Have a  private toast and enjoy the warmth of that fine cognac sliding down your throat.  Savor the taste of that Godiva Chocolate.  Let the fact that you woke up this morning healthy and strong be a cause for celebration.  Don’t deprive yourself of the blessings and gifts that have come your way.  We often overlook  the most important and most beautiful things because instead of focusing on the here and now, we’re too busy looking  off in the distance, waiting for something that may never come.  Don’t wait any longer, use the good dishes!

The Blame Game


It’s so easy to blame everything and everybody for what is going wrong in our lives. But we often ignore the main culprit, ourselves. As much as we try to avoid taking responsibility for our lives , we are the producers for the soundtrack of our lives, the CEO’s of our sole corporations, and the responsibilities rest solely on our shoulders.